I’m a 36 year old FTM (female-to-male transsexual). My exploration of gender and sex over the past few years has largely been enabled by other transfolk who’ve shared their experiences of transitioning and their thoughts. I wish to continue this tradition for a few reasons. First, writing helps me sort through things. Second, I can get a little lazy even though I love to write so having a potential audience will help motivate me. Finally, I want to give back what I’ve been given so if my experiences and thoughts can help anyone else figure themselves out, great! Sometimes reading stuff we agree or disagree with helps us sort through our own stuff. So happy reading!
I *do* have other obsessions that I like to write about. If you are interested in reading my rants and reflections on other issues, check out Jacky’s Place in the blogroll. You’ll find that I talk about sex quite a bit but I can also talk about political issues, music and, well, just look at it, OK?
About the header: the river shown in the picture is Kapsaouis. It runs through the hunting and trapping territory of the family of a dear friend and mentor in Eeyou Istchee (Cree land) in Eastern James Bay. When I was 25, I made the acquaintance of this river and felt like a whole person for the first time in my life. Before I left, I accidentally left a piece of my spirit there, in the river. When I returned at 34, I asked for it back. I immediately realised my mistake - I somehow knew that I needed to leave it there.
Looking at Kapsaouis, even in a picture, still helps me feel complete.
You’re the first transman I find in here. Just wanted to say hi and how happy I am to not be the only one. It’s also a relief to “meet” someone who’s older than me/around my age and, as me, in the beginning of transition. Here in Norway it seems all FTMs are younger. I don’t like feeling old before hitting puberty
I also deeply agree with your thoughts on sharing experiences to help others.
Love,
Tarald
Hi Tarald;
Thanks for stopping by! I hope you become a regular reader and commentor and I look forward to checking out your site (I’m at work now). I know what you mean about feeling old before 2nd puberty. At the same time, I think it will be neat to experience “coming of age” knowing now what I didn’t know when I went through puberty the first time around.
Jacky
Hey Jacky,
I was directed to your site by a guy I know in BC (Sam). I am moving to Montreal this summer and he thought you might be able to give me some suggestions of where to start with connecting with the trans community there.
To tell you a little about me, I’m Scottish, genderqueer ftm who has been living in BC for 5 years. I am learning, but at the moment I couldn’t have any interesting conversation in French.
I am excited I found your site as I also have come to this from a strong feminist background and have taken a similar route to transition. To overly simplify and condense – first learning to express myself in my female body in a way that was positive, then realizing despite the fact I don’t really believe in gender, I still needed to transition.
This note may have been better as an email, but I couldn’t find a direct address for you so I am submitting it as a comment. Feel free to post it or not. I’d really appreciate any information/advice you would share on Montreal… perhaps we could even go for a coffee sometime?
Thanks.
Hey! Thanks for checking out the site and posting. Glad to hear I’m not alone in my thoughts on gender, etc. I’ll write to you by email about the Montreal stuff.
Maryn;
I tried writing to you at the address that came up when I approved your post. Hope you got the email.
Jacky
Jack your blog is excellent, thank you for visiting and blog rolling Some Notes on Living. Our gratitude is deep. Love the template you have chosen and it appears that you are giving lots of folks a great avenue to express and explore what they need to.
Kudo’s from a fellow traveler
pp(tg) aka Nicki
Thanks for dropping by Nicki! To me, this blogging stuff is all about sharing and breaking isolation. Sure, there are trans groups in many areas but it’s hard to find like-minded (ie. genderqueer) trans people in many of them so it’s nice to be able to share here.
Jacky,
thanks for this great blog. I love to read it. I am a 44 yo ftm. I have been on T for 6 weks now. What a long strange trip it’s been just ot get to this point. cheers brother.
cris
Hey Cris! Thanks for stopping by. Glad you enjoy the blog. 6 weeks, eh? You must be at that point where you’re wondering when you’re going to start to see changes . . .or maybe you have already. Hope it’s all going well, physically, mentally, socially . . .
I started on Monday and I can’t wait to give myself my second shot next week! Don’t be shy to leave comments on any of the posts. I always make it a point to respond and I love discussion.
Hey Jacky!
I found your blog when reading Taralds blog, and Ive been reading your blog for some time now. I’m 20 and also in the beginning of my transition.
Clicking on my name will probably take you to my Norwegian blog, itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com is my english blog
Thanks for blogging!
/Drik
Hi Jacky. Returning the complement. Thanks for including me in your blogroll. I have had a quick look around yours but I haven’t the time today to respond to any of your posts but I’ll be back!
Shirley Anne x
Thanks Shirley Anne!
Kewl blog, Jacky. I wonder if you’re in parts of Canuckianland that I’ve lived in. I do occassionally visit back up there now and again.
Should have a beer or Timmies one day.
Also, nice to know another older transitioning guy.
Thanks Linus! Who’re you calling “older” hahahaha. Yeah, I guess everything is relative. Lots of trans guys start a lot younger.
I’m in Montreal. Let me know if you’re ever in these parts! What about you? NYC right? I love that city – grew up 60 miles away from there.
Hi
just wondering a few things…
are there any support groups in Montreal for the FTM community to talk about the different issues, or like a mentorship program?
also is there a store in town that carries FTM products?
I really appreciate your Gazette article and openness – I am looking to hook up with the FTM community in Montreal – just starting out and while like you its been a great experience, just needing someone to talk to who has gone ahead…
many thanks M
Welcome to my blog! To answer your questions, there is no group specifically for FTMs. If you speak French, the Association des Transsexuel(le)s du Québec has weekly discussion groups (you can google them) for all transsexuals but most of the people who go are trans women. On the English side, there are groups offering services to trans folk such as Project 10 (for youth under 25) and Centre 2110 for gender advocacy but I don’t know of a mentorship program as such. I know a number of trans guys, though, and there is are a few that get together to socialise once in a while. Many of us are connected on Facebook.
For a while, Priape was carrying packers but I don’t think they do anymore. If enough people showed interest, I’m sure they’d be open to carrying more gear for us. Binders are hard to find. I get mine in Ottawa, or online through Venus Envy. I think there is a place at McGill that sells used binders.
You can always get in touch with me at nancyboymtl at hotmail dot com.