OK, so quite a few trans folk have been showing their faces on their blogs. I hesitated for a long time. One of the reasons was that I was worried that a student would accidentally stumble across my blog and put 2 and 2 together. You know what? I don’t care anymore. At this point, I’m pretty sure that several students know, just because my occasional ventures to the campus this semester (I’m on leave) have consisted of quite a few encounters with confused looking students. Also, I’ve given guest presentations to students that have had me in the past as a teacher – as a woman. And I was now introduced as male so . . .
Another reason that I hesitated was that I feared the parent of another child at my son’s school would see it and start spreading the words, and that my son would be bullied by other kids. However, since that time, I’ve realised that the kids are seeing something and are already teasing my son about his mom looking like a guy. So . . . I would rather everything be out in the open and equip my son with tools for dealing with other kids’ meanness than hide and create stress for both of us.
A few weeks ago, I wrote a blog entry for Jillian’s first blog. Jillian is a Montreal transwoman who works at a local newspaper. This paper gave her online space to create a blog about transsexual/transgender issues on their website after she came out to her company and my entry was part of a series of entries from “correspondents.” After debating for weeks, I provided a picture that she could put up (I now see that it’s no longer there, but it was up, I swear!!!).
What eventually led me to put my picture up online in association with my trans identity was that the stress of hiding was just too much to bear. Everyone that matters in my life knows that I’m trans. Also, it seems contradictory that I would be out and proud in the rest of my life but not be willing to put my face next to my words. As for the issues raised above, I changed my views on them as outlined. I also figured that the likelihood of anyone stumbling across Jillian’s or my blog was pretty low, unless they were already looking around for trans stuff.
Here are some before, during and after pics. Enjoy!
That’s it for now!