UPDATED DECEMBER 20, 2009: Link fixed.
Hope this doesn’t come across as self-promotion. I had heard of this page before but hadn’t looked at it because of the assumption that it was just more trannie-fetishising (as in, how to get the transboy of your dreams and keep him in a cage so you can show your friends how cool you are for dating a transboy). But I finally checked it out and it’s a very thorough list of things to consider for anyone to who is sexually or emotionally involved with an FTM. Worth checking out even if you’re not in that situation as some of the stuff applies even in non-sexual or non-emotional contexts.
Miranda: We haven’t been on Livejournal and didn’t see your comment about what happened until today. Are you all right, dear? What happened?
Rogan: I was dubious about the title of that article until I read it, and then I just laughed. I have only uncloseted a couple times to guys, never in the terms of being tranny, and I’ve STILL had some of those reactions. I still recall being told, “Aw, but you’re such a CUTE girl!” with all seriousness. That or they go the opposite direction, assume I’m gay, and react with fear because OMG I might grope them.
Mac, on the other hand, doesn’t treat the body as his (the reason he abuses it by running laps like a demented Greyhound). He, oddly, never has any people thinking he’s not male–instead, they usually get the Pervert Look and go, “So, having a girl’s body… heh heh… how does it FEEL?”
hiya – thanx for the link – im a straight girl dating a transman and found it very interesting –
Glad you found it useful!
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