Comments on: Having a female past

By: Jacky V.

Jacky V. — Sat, 08 Mar 2008 06:28:44 +0000

Thanks Malcolm!! Glad you enjoy it. I’d love to visit your blog as well but your post doesn’t link to it . . .

By: malcolmhardwell

malcolmhardwell — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 23:14:31 +0000

Hey, I really enjoy your writing here. I’ve added you to my blogroll so I can remember to come back. Nothing else to add in my comment here, since you’ve said so much so well.

By: Jacky V.

Jacky V. — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 19:12:51 +0000

Thanks Tarald. I really think there is a reason for everything. I’m glad I was born the way I was. And I hope to remain proud of it in the future.

By: Tarald Stein

Tarald Stein — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 19:06:48 +0000

I think you’re on the right track. And your thoughts are sometimes clearer than mine. I especially like the part about learning what you needed from beeing female bodied. It resonnates well whith my own thoughts.

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By: Jacky V.

Jacky V. — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 15:30:23 +0000

Thanks Jim! Let me ponder that last phrase . . .I have to think about it a while before I comment.

By: Jim

Jim — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 05:00:48 +0000

Thanks for the link. You write so well about such complex emotions and issues that I’m sure you will achieve your objective of helping others – indeed inspiring them.

You make a good point about learning from the past rather than regretting it. Can I offer you in return something i saw recently which inspired me and seems relevant for you just now – “The future has as much influence on the present as the past”.

By: Jacky V.

Jacky V. — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 02:36:18 +0000

Thanks for the comments! I’ve always felt that a past was a huge part of the present whether it be positive, negative or neutral. I remember a woman where I worked when I was in my 20s asked me if I thought I would ever regret the tattoo I had gotten when I was 19. I replied that I hoped that at 30, 40, etc, I would always be able to remember who I was when I was 19. That tattoo reflects who I was at that time so how could I regret who I was?

By: Maggie

Maggie — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 01:45:09 +0000

I think you make a really good point, about being a better man because you’ve been a woman, and I’m glad you clarified some things – your analogy of the nice outfit that doesn’t quite fit is great!

I think, as Mish intimates, we should all be conscious of where we come from, in all respects, because our past cannot help but influence our present and future. Those that try to ignore/rewrite/suppress the past are perhaps not doomed to repeat it, but certainly will have to deal with ‘issues’ – your approach seems a lot healthier!

By: Mish

Mish — Fri, 18 Jan 2008 23:18:59 +0000

The part about learning what you needed to from being female and applying those lessons really resonates. It’s the past that helps shape who we are in the present.